living with grief
not just in spite of it
If you’ve lost someone close to you, you know all too well. Lemony Snicket said it best, “If you have ever lost someone very important to you, then you already know how it feels, and if you haven't, you cannot possibly imagine it.”
But while your loss may always be with you, you don’t have to consider it an enemy. Whether your experience was weeks or years ago, we can find peace with, and even make friends with, our sadness. Rather than attempting (futilely) to heal it and pack it neatly into the attic of our mind, when we accept our pain as a part of us, we can instead work to grow with and around it. Acceptance, planning, and self-care are the foundation of living with your grief, not in spite of it - and it all begins with being truly seen and held, in a space that eases confusion and makes big, intangible concepts feel accessible.
hi, i’m rowan,
…and I lost my dad as at 16, after a nine year battle with cancer. Grief has always walked beside me like a shadow, but when his spirit left this world, I entered the worst part of my life - and spent about twelve years there.
What changed everything for me was when I began to see my heartache as a companion rather than an obstacle. Instead of looking for the day when I could be healed, I realized that my relationship with my dad wasn’t gone; it had just changed. The pain I felt was a way that I was still connected with him. Now I consider grief my friend. Even in the difficult moments, it is a part of me that I can care for and honor because it’s a reflection of someone I loved so dearly.
You had someone close to you pass away recently, and are feeling lost
You lost someone years ago and still feel outweighed by your grief
You want to feel connected to a lost loved one
You want to be seen and acknowledged in your grief by someone who has been there
You’re more interested in making peace with grief than a “finish line” of being healed from it
this is for you if:
the process
(Some of) what we’ll explore
Grow with Grief is a series of three 2-hour sessions, each spaced a month apart to allow time for integration and any between-session work. You’ll also have access to Whatsapp support for our entire time together.
Session 1: The Warm-Up
Just like you wouldn’t go to a gym and immediately try to lift a 100lb weight, we’ll ease into our work together. In our first session, we’ll spend lots of time talking about you as we settle into the space and get to know one another. Pisces Glow will be your anchor in the choppy waters of this process, so this is time for you to get comfortable and build trust and safety in our container. I’ll ask some simple questions about your loved one, gently getting a stronger sense of what you’ve experienced.
We’ll also explore ideas for how to anchor into yourself through this process (finding home within your body, building self-trust, taking care of yourself) and practice techniques for grounding that you can use throughout our time together and beyond.
Between session one and two, you’ll be encouraged to practice mindfulness around your grief; noticing how comfortable you are with it now, ways that you avoid it or dive deeply into it, and more. You’ll also be invited to consider your current coping skills and how they affect you, as well as getting curious about how you can best be supported.
Session 2: Diving Deeper (loss oriented)
In our second session, we’ll talk more about the person you lost. We’ll explore not just what happened to them, but who they were and what they represented in your life; things like how they made you feel, what’s missing from your life without them, and ways that you embody or carry them with you.
We’ll also explore themes of guilt and internal conflict; things that were left unresolved, or any cycle you find yourself caught in without them. We’ll release the “what ifs” and bring in self-compassion and forgiveness.
Between session two and three, you’ll receive some journaling prompts to reflect on what we talked about, and be invited to begin honoring them - maybe building an altar, or just writing them a letter, or even opening up to a mutual friend/family member to talk about them.
Session 3: Growing with Grief (restoration oriented)
In our third session, we’ll look ahead. We’ll begin by planning more tangible aspects, like how to anticipate burnout and handling erratic emotions. Then we’ll move onto designing a life with a new relationship with them in mind. This will look like brainstorming ways to maintain a connection with them, acknowledging the ways they live on in you (or what you’d like to embody from them), and creating practices of self protection and energetic maintenance as you navigate the future.
We’ll close this session with a Reiki energy healing session, to ensure the release of any heaviness or burdens you’re ready to be rid of, and to anchor in the work we’ve done together. We’ll celebrate you, for taking this step, for your bravery through the process, and on behalf of the person you lost.
You’ll be invited after our time together to reach out and share memories with others who knew your loved one, and invite them to share how they see that person in you. You’ll also be invited to create a memory box, collage, or other project centered around your loved one that you can open/read/look at when you’re missing them.
don’t forget spirit!
In addition to the framework above, we’ll be using spiritual tools with the more scientific ones. Your time with Alchemy-Oh-My will also include a combination of:
Reiki energy healing
Guided meditation
Tarot and Oracle card readings
Psychic channeling
And more!
the scoop:
Grow with Grief is a series of three sessions at 120 minutes per meeting, each spaced roughly one month apart, in person or virtual. You’ll be held deeply in your grief, work through residual guilt, identify the ways that you carry your person with you, find ways to continue your relationship with them, and chart steps for you and your grief to coexist.
The intention behind these sessions is to support you to…:
feel a sense of connection to your lost loved one, both internally and externally
feel seen and secure in your grief
have confidence that as you move forward, you can care for yourself through hard days
know the ways that you are still connected to your person
Grow with Grief, 3 sessions package $2,555
Experience a warm, judgement free space to anchor into
Feel closer to your lost loved one, even though the relationship has changed
Create a toolbox of ways to care for yourself
Move forward knowing that while your life will always include grief, it can be your companion, not your rival
Receive lifetime access to the Grow with Grief Workbook
Receive WhatsApp support for the duration of our time together
One month Magic Mail Club bonus
Invitation to add more, one-off sessions if/as needed for the next year at $ each
Book a connection call below to see if we fit!